What Confidence Looks Like When You’re Still Figuring It Out

If you read my first post — From Scattered to Structured — you already know I don’t have everything neatly figured out.

And if you’re wondering why this second post is landing in February and not January… you’re not wrong. January kind of flew by.

No excuses (even though there were on-and-off sicknesses in our house from January 1st through most of the month 🙃). That’s just life. And honestly, that feels like a fitting way to start this conversation.

Because confidence, at least for me, doesn’t look like perfect timing or flawless execution.

It looks like continuing anyway.

The version of confidence we don’t talk about enough

For a long time, I thought confidence was something you arrived at.

Like one day you wake up and suddenly:

• you’re sure of yourself

• you stop second-guessing

• you feel ready

• you finally “know what you’re doing”

But that hasn’t been my experience.

Most of the time, confidence has shown up while I was still figuring things out.

While I was learning. While I was adjusting. While I was unsure but moving forward anyway.

Confidence doesn’t mean certainty

Right now, I’m confident — and also still figuring things out.

Both can exist at the same time.

Confidence, for me, looks like:

• trusting my judgment even when I don’t have all the answers

• making a decision without needing ten other people to validate it

• starting before I feel fully “ready”

• allowing myself to learn publicly instead of hiding until it’s perfect

It’s quieter than I expected. Less flashy. Less performative.

And honestly? More grounded.

When confidence meets creativity

Because my brain is creative and fast-moving, confidence used to feel slippery.

I’d question myself constantly: Is this the right idea? Should I pivot? Should I wait? Am I doing too much? Not enough?

What helped wasn’t forcing myself to “be more confident.”

It was building structure that let me trust myself more.

Clear plans. Simple systems. Fewer decisions on repeat.

That’s where confidence started to stick — not because I suddenly believed in myself more, but because I created an environment where I could follow through.

Still figuring it out — and that’s okay

I’m still learning. I’m still refining. I’m still adjusting as life, business, and motherhood shift.

But confidence now looks like this:

• I don’t panic when things aren’t perfect

• I don’t assume uncertainty means I’m failing

• I don’t wait for permission to keep going

I let progress count — even when it’s messy.

Why I’m sharing this

If you’re reading this and thinking, “I don’t feel confident yet,” I want you to know:

You don’t need to have it all figured out to be confident.

You just need to keep showing up — thoughtfully, intentionally, and with a little grace for yourself.

That’s the version of confidence I’m practicing this year.

And if you’re still figuring things out too, you’re in good company.

Here’s to building confidence while we’re still becoming.